Confessions of a Single Girl

You’re single so you date.

But then dating gets tired.

You get on  the  “Im a Queen kind of train.” (Empowering for sure, love to date myself – I’d recommend it at least once if your life if you are a woman and have yet to indulge in the magic of self.)

Okay, but then, sometimes with this single thing, you get bored. Or have needs. So you date. And every once in a while (cause you are for sure picky, and you deserve to be) you meet someone you like.

But, do you sleep with them just because your horny? 

Or because you actually like them?

Or, do you hold out?

Cause society says you should.

You wonder why there are so many rules. Because you don’t like rules. Why can’t you just do what you want?

Well, you can. But then, what exactly is it that you want to do?

Dating is fun, especially, like I said,  when you find someone you like to date. But then, the feelings thing. You love to love.

You fall in love every day.

With the clouds and the trees, and even him. Well, not completely him. But he is lovely. But it’s just fun right? Even though you kind of (really) like him. And games, are fun.

But you’ve been there. Done that.

So you wonder, is your free wild spirit ready to be tamed? 

And even if it is.

It’s only fair to ask yourself…How can you dive into a relationship again, just when you are about to launch off to foreign destinations. And you know how that goes.

Same song, different dance.

When you leave to these far off place, the romance of the journey becomes our love, and your heart goes right along with you. It takes no prisoners in this journey of gypsy fun.

SO how then, can you ask for more – when you don’t know what it looks like to give that of yourself.

Maybe this is what your tender wild heart really dreams of…

A safe place to always call home. Not in a location, but someone one on board, to hold your hand, and your heart on this magnificent cosmic ride.

Then you wonder.

Is any man going to rise to the challenge (and reward) of loving such a bold, free, untamed and sensitive soul…

And then this dating thing again.

You wonder again, should have slept with him so soon?

Well. yes. duh.

He make you feel so good. Those yummy lips, his manly body, his manly everything. His sweet smile. But there are 7 million people on the planet.

SO many more to meet in this life.

But you like this one. Right now.

So what do you?

Put yourself out there.

What have you got to lose? Dignity isn’t measured by times you’ve been turned down. And courage can be defined by how brave you are, especially when you are afraid.

Not of being vulnerable no, that’s the easy part. So – you go for it.

But. Well, your dating right? And alas, you learn. So is he. And not just you…

Even though he tell you he loves your energy. Maybe that’s what he says to the other girls too?? Or maybe he just wasn’t ready for someone so wild and refreshingly vibrant to enter his space.

Well fuck him you think?!

Yes. But no.

Cause he actually seems genuinely sorry to know he hurt your feelings.

It’s this dating thing…

Being together is lovely. But so is being alone.

NO feelings get hurt when you date yourself. No hearts get broken when you’re out on your own. So you straighten up your crown (the one he knocked sideways when fucked you like he owned you.) Which, let’s admit it you liked.

But that still does not mean he deserves your body or your time.

Because you know you know your depth, and your worth.

It extends far deeper than the soft spots he found inside of you.

Respect is just the minimum. He clearly still has much to learn.

And sex with yourself is uber fun too…

So, off you go. You stand up tall. You own your power. You keep on shining your magnificent bright light. That bright light that oozes out of your pores when you know the magic you hold in your bones.

You know, that his days a better with you around. Because you infuse life with generous, abundant love.

But you are happy to return to yourself.

You focus on you. And what makes you feel alive. Back to the waters of expansion and creativity. Masterfully crafting this path of your own. Boss babe shit. Is back on a roll.

You fill your days with indulgent self love.

No better time than now, to stay (or fall back) wildly in love with yourself.

And that’s why your own days are better with you around. In making your own company, the best there is, then everything else, is just a bonus gift.

So you stay single. And not a victim to this single life, but proud – that all you need is you.

And when he calls you again, you are have the power. To wish him away, or invite him along.

But there are no regrets when you stand in the radiance of your own divine self.  

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To those who like to wander…

To those who like to wander,

I hope you know what a treasure you are and how brilliantly rare your free spirit is. In a world where comfort is often found in the security of routine and the known, you unapologetically seek the mystery of life. You move with fluidity that sets you apart, and in this motion, you often flow, to oceans and pastures away from the herd.  I hope you know to endlessly nourish this untamed spirit. I hope you know what a gem you are and how truly bright you shine.

Your ideals that rest and waken in the discovering the depth of self, is a quality to cherish. Life for you is a continued exploration of what exists beyond the edge of the visible eye. You sweet soul, finding comfort in the solitude, and joy in the lonely;  you’ve learned through it all, this is where you grow. You love the way new places and foreign culture can snuggly tuck you in at night. Your passion to experience the totality of existence is not be ignore.

In your endless pursuit to truly feel alive you’ve humbly come to know rejection as the hand that holds success. In this vulnerability you’ve learned what a powerful force you are. There is no stop to what you can dream sweet child. There will be no denying your radiance, your dedication to love, forever prevails. Even if sometimes you feel sad or alone, you continue with dedication to creating a greater fabric of inspiration.  To be knocked down is only an opportunity to get back up. You’ve learned that kindness and a smile can soothe even the angriest of hearts. You know now that your laughter is the pulse on which the tradewinds blows. There is nothing a sense of humor cannot solve. 

You sweet child are pure and vibrant. Your failure has come to teach you, that failure is not what they say, but simply a nudge in a different direction. Success lives in the breath and energy of how you believe you can. Infectious is your wild spirit that refuses to behave in any way but free. The way you bravely embrace the unknown with curiosity love is an endless ray of sunshine. I hope you know to never diminish the fire that burns inside of you. Because with your audacious capability to abide in a journey that satisfies your deepest truths, you give others permission to do the same. 

With love,

Someone who understand your wild urges

 

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mi corazon es llena mi alma es feliz. nada mas de buenas vibras❤️🌕🕉

Pure gold is not anymore a metal of the earth than the ore of our souls. A sweet sticky honey. Oozing, rich and delicious 🙂 Tap into natural abundance and feel this richness penetrate every pore of your existence ☀️

We are vessels of love.
We are vibrant, radiant beings pulsing with life.
We are the matrix connected and whole… 💫🌈🌀♻️🌐

Feeling so inspired and so grateful and so completely in love with this beautiful blessed life. Too many good vibes not to share!!!❤️💛💚

We came from this earth, and one day we will all return, but in the meantime we should continue to celebrate this shared existence living and loving to the max…

It really seems that if we give whole heartedly and unselfishly everything we gives comes back to us and more. We cannot create or eliminate energy, so yes it’s a bit magic, but it’s also science too!! The vibrations you put out in the universe do come back to you. So do Yourself a favor and share smiles and love authentically and with as many humans as possible. Love is powerful 🙂 Although I’m not religious the bible says “you reap what you sow” and I believe this to be true with all of my existence . There  has been abundant goodnes  in my life recently. When we plant the seeds of love and compassion our gardens grow the most luscious juicy fruits. 🍓🍇🍉🍒🍍

I’ve been working like a loco since I’ve been back from Costa and these last few days I’ve had off were pretty rad.. days that with out any expectation surpassed anything I could have dreamed. I was able to slow down, be close to nature and reminded of what a beautiful tribe of human beings I get to share my life and energy with… And it feels importAnt to share these experience with you.
As humanity our need to give and reciece love is the single most thing that connects us- its so necessary to cultivate environment that allow us to fall out of our heads and into our hearts, thinking less feeling more. Being sensitive and compassionate and vulnerable are most beautiful qualities
❤️🌟❤️🌟❤️🌟❤️🌟❤️🌟❤️🌟 creating space to in our hearts to love and celebrate what a magical gift life is… How very special  this moment being right here right now is 🙂 sometimes we work too much but we should try to find a way to enjoy every blessed second. When the actions we do have positive intentions that intention carries on long after the action has passed…

Finding myself in a place of gratitude, love and humility I write to remind you to do the same. Never was a moment wasted spend loving 💕

As one of my favorite saying goes “wherever you are, whatever you do, be in love”
-Rumi

All love. All the time. From Baja, to the house of blues, to mornings with chickens and encounters around town may we continue to rise in love. From my soul to yours. Have an amazing day💛🌻🌟✨🌻

A super stoked salty and Sunkissed mermaid 🐚💙🌊